Top tips if you’re nervous attending an event
Most of the events I run are for people attending by themselves and I totally appreciate that can be a nerve racking thing to do. Firstly, please know that I’ll do all I can to help you feel relaxed and comfortable at the event! However, I do appreciate that it’s often not about other people, but how we’re feeling internally. Having run lots of local events, here are my top tips for you if you’re feeling nervous…
- Firstly, know that this is so normal!
I would say most (if not all!) people have a flutter of nerves when they first arrive and it’s not at all unusual for people to experience anxiety in the lead up. Everyone at the event is going to be eager to get to know others and will be kind to you, because they’re in exactly the same position. The first few minutes are often enough to dissolve this feeling as I have lots of things to help conversation flow: question cards, games, a quiz etc. However, if the worry you’re feeling goes beyond that then please keep reading…
- Get in touch beforehand
Please do contact me at burton.road.network@gmail.com if you have any questions or would like to request any access arrangements; I will always do my best to accommodate them as far as is practicable. For some, I appreciate that knowing the layout of the venue is helpful, or where the quiet spots are. I’ve also had people come to my events a little early to meet me beforehand and get settled into the space – and I’m always happy to do that if it’s helpful.
- Think of a time you’ve succeeded in something scary before
Our brains can sometimes not be the best friends we would like them to be! They can tell us stories about what is and isn’t possible – that’s not always based in reality. A great way to get around this, is to present our brains with lots of evidence of when we’ve overcome our fears in the past. This helps us create a new story that we are brave people, capable of showing up for ourselves and doing challenging things. (At least that’s the theory… I don’t want to suggest for a moment this is a straightforward process but I do believe we’re all capable of doing hard things.)
- Lean into your support network
Let your loved ones know that you’re going to be attending an event and check in with them before and afterwards. Get a pep talk from your bestie or a confidence boost from your cousin… whoever feels right for you, let them know what’s on your mind so they can help support you.
- Take care of your mental health before, during and after
This looks different for everyone, of course! However, there’s a few things I would recommend for (most) people… 1) Wear clothes that are comfortable and you feel confident in. 2) Do something to make you feel good beforehand e.g. exercising or listening to your favourite music. 3) Keep drinking water throughout the event. 4) Take time to deescalate afterwards, whether that’s journaling or having a long shower. 5) Give yourself credit for having attended!